Have you wondered whether men equate sex and relationship? Do you hesitate before you sleep with a man too early and then do it anyway? Do you often find yourself regretting having slept with a man too soon? It is time to stop worrying! We have the information that will end the ceaseless pondering on this subject for you.
In days of old, it was unheard of to think of sex before marriage. Marriage first, then sex, not the other way around. These days, it is sad that sex and marriage are such undervalued commodities. Let the change start with you. Here are the facts:
1. If a man is investing in your relationship, then you are for the long term. If he calls you at odd hours and wants to meet right away, you are a booty call. Don’t be so available. You can’t, then, blame him.
2. Always, always delay having sex until you are certain he is the one. If casual sex is all you want, you must step back and take a good, close look at yourself and your values. You need to fill yourself up with love for yourself and feel valuable. There are very few women who can have casual sex and not get emotionally involved or who feel great after.
3. Men can have sex without having a relationship with you. Many times, once they sleep with you, they lose interest. Unless they are the real deal. So why hurt yourself in the bargain? Let him prove he is the real deal. Let him be as gallant as men of old. Then give him the prize! Do you give the prize before a race is won?
4. Be extremely selective. You need to know, as the woman, you have all the power. He will chase you, impress you, and try to win you over. The sex is the ultimate prize for all his hard work of courting you. Why give someone the reward too early? Time is your friend and keep delaying sex, until you feel that he’s genuine and truly cares about you.
In short, it is not what a man thinks about sex and relationship, but it is what you think that counts. Instead of spending so much time trying to get into his head, spend a little more time in your own head and figure out your own boundaries. Really, do you want to be someone’s brief pastime? You are way too precious for that!